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I finally got myself a contact lenses. Whee~

After many years of suffering bad eyesight, I finally decided to get myself a pair of contact lens today! Many are surprised when they find out that I wasn’t wearing one before this. Yup… I sometimes torture myself by not wearing my specs. 

It was these last few years that it got so bad that I can’t even read the menu over the counter. It got to the point that I can’t take it anymore and so today finally i bought them. The optician gave me a shock when they say I might have astigmatism. Hope it’s not so bad and that it won’t go up any higher.

I wore contacts before but only for a month and that was it. I’m surprised that i was able to put them on quite ‘easily’ last time but this time round, I spent half an hour just to get 2 of them on! My sister was laughing her heart out watching me.

As I’m writing this, it still feels a bit uncomfortable but i can see so much better now. It’s like a whole new world. How i envy those with perfect eyesight.

Welcoming 2010

So 2009 has come to a closure and now we’ve welcomed 2010. I know many who had their shares of ups and downs but if i had to say one thing, it’s good riddance 2009. Not in a bad ‘thank God it’s over’ kinda way though but more like ‘phew’… I’ve made it through’ and I’m still in one piece! You never know what you’re running into till the last corner and bang you walked into a wall.

Did you ever realize that life has a way of making you think that you’ve always got things under control only to find that our grasp just wasn’t tight enough or for whatever reason and it runs like sand through your fingers? Taking precautions might be a good idea for once.

But anyway, how’s the resolution counter doing this year? I think i have a whole list of them but i just never bothered to sort them out. I’m just not that disciplined to stick to one anyway. I do however have a goal this year and that’s as far as i would mention. Not much but hey, it’s just my way of saying I’m still alive.

New semester up next so that’s a biggie for me. Hopefully I’ll get to go back and have a lil frenzy time with my friends!

So what’s cooking this year?

FRIENDSHIP BETWEEN GIRL & BOY: Is It Just An EXCUSE?

This is a timeless question that spans the generations. If you ask ten different people for their opinion on the subject you will likely get ten different answers and reasons for why they believe what they believe. My opinion – it depends on the people involved.

I think there are some people who can form friendships with the opposite sex and have it remain a friendship and nothing more. They are aware of their own personal boundaries and have the ability to enforce these boundaries at will. Most important, they are also able to distinguish the difference between friendship and a romantic relationship, which may be the key to their success.

There are others, however, who are not able to form successful friendships with the opposite sex. They may be too easily tempted by kindness and flirtation, or they may not be able to easily distinguish the difference between a friendship and a romantic relationship. Some may even have difficulty either setting boundaries or enforcing them. Regardless of the reason, some people simply should not form friendships with the opposite sex because it just doesn’t work for them. Regardless of which category you fall into, it is important to understand that given the nature of the male/female relationship there are always risks associated with forming these friendships.

In order to form a true friendship there must be an element of trust between both parties. This trust, this understanding, can cause a great deal of confusion if you’re not careful. If this person becomes your confidant, for example, and you find yourself turning to them when life becomes difficult, or when you need advice, this understanding can easily be confused with romantic attraction. If you’ve ever had a friend or acquaintance that you suddenly find yourself looking at differently, in a more attractive and romantic way, then you know how easily the line between friendship and romantic attraction can be crossed.

Forming friendships with the opposite sex can become particularly complicated if you are already involved in a romantic relationship with a significant other. This is especially true if you turn to your “friend” for advice about your relationship. Though turning to your friend may seem harmless, you could easily become attracted to their sympathy, compassion and ultimately to them, especially if you are in a vulnerable state of mind. This could not only cause mixed emotions for you, but also friction between you and your significant other.

Also, as genuine of a friend as this person may seem, how can you ever be truly sure that their intention, or that the advice that they give you is meant with your best interest in mind? It’s true that not everybody would take advantage of your vulnerability and intentionally (or even subtly) lead you astray. The truth, however, is that you never really know what is going on in someone else’s mind and so you can never really be sure of their true intent. For all you know this person is just waiting for you to be single again so that they can build on the relationship that you have already allowed them to establish with you. After all, why is it that they are taking valuable time out of their hectic life to console you? Why would they break their own plans simply to listen to you complain about your relationship? And why do they care so much about your personal life if not to become more of a part of it?

My intent is not to evoke fear, or to advise you not to trust anybody of the opposite sex. My intent is to simply illustrate how the male/female friendship is extremely complex. If you insist on forming friendships with the opposite sex, at least take a few minutes to set some ground rules. Decide what you will and will not discuss with this person, and make sure that your relationship with this friend is clearly defined in your own mind before you choose to pursue it. If this sounds like too much work, play it safe and simply don’t turn to your girl/guy friend for consolation.

Everybody’s different. Some people can form successful friendships with members of the opposite sex, while others are better off staying clear of them. There is no right or wrong answer because no situation is ever black and white. Just remember that sometimes it’s not so much a matter of whether or not you choose to form these friendships, as it is about the boundaries you set for yourself and your willingness to stick to them that can make all the difference.

P.S: To anyone who got offended by this post, well it is for you. DEAL with it! Don’t whine your way out of it.